Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Rising Light


Taken June 6, 2013.

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  1. Morning all.

    Went up to Indy yesterday and bought some stuff for our Yosemite hiking trip at the end of the month which was fun.

    Also, took my 91-year-old mom to get a computer-based evaluation of her driving responses because my sisters and I want her to stop driving and wanted to prove to her that she needs to stop (she thinks she's fine). The unsurprising result was that her time between seeing something visually and her brain processing it is way too slow and she should stop driving. Her reaction: the test wasn't fair and it was wrong. Telling* her the test was very fair and she is wrong and that she is putting her safety and the safety of others at risk was hugely no fun (and unsuccessful). We hate to force her to give up driving but we may have to do that (I'm hoping one of my sisters can be more persuasive than I was).

    * euphemism

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  2. Love the pic. Bummer sbout the driving. Just north of you, in Michigan, you have to take a driving test when you reach a certain age. Dad failed it, and they yanked his license.

    The edits came back for Water and Chaos, and she told me "you're gonna write me out of a job." Not likely, but it's been through a grueling beta. It *did* only take a couple hours to incorporate them. Since I was hoping to launch on Wednesday, and find myself ahead of schedule for a change, I'm going to do a read-aloud for at least a couple chapters.

    Wet week here. Hope everyone gets rain if they want it.

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    1. Congrats on the good news on the edits and the excellent progress.

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  3. I learned from growing up in South Florida (and working in probate law for a while) that it's pretty common for elderly people to behave like teenagers as they reach the stage in life in which they have to surrender rights and privileges. As if that's not hard enough on its face, it's often their own children/grandchildren who have to play both informant and enforcer, which looks incredibly difficult for everyone involved.

    She might well associate driving with independence and adult competence, so making sure that she doesn't feel trapped or infantilized by giving up her license/car might persuade her to compromise. Another tactic I've seen work fairly well is a not-so-subtle bribery arrangement. One thing you want to watch for at her age specifically is the same kind of irresponsible friends that parents have to watch out for at ages 14-17, because they will do the same things -- out after curfew, smoking when they shouldn't, joyriding in borrowed cars with zero regard for Johnny Law. (I should be honest and admit that I usually cheer them on whenever I see them doing these things, lol.)

    Good day to everyone and may all your elder-wrangling go smoothly.

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    1. Thanks for the thoughts, Jen. We have tried to assure her that she won't lose her independence (which is her big worry) by pointing out that what makes her independent is her desire to go our and do things, not the means by which she travels. And we have shown her all the options available to her but I think it is just a big scary change and we will all have to work at it to get her to accept it.

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  4. Hi, all. Andi, sorry to hear about your mother. We went through that with my dad and it was very hard. Here's hoping that she sees reason soon.

    We are still having flash flood warnings. I think that this is the fourth or fifth day of it. Luckily I am on a rise so I don't have to worry about my house but enough is enough!

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    1. We've been having lots of rain too but after the droughts of the last three summers, I don't mind (and we're up way too high to be affected by flooding).

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