Monday, June 11, 2012

Zen Sniff Ponders Pining Over While Pining Under

Taken May 19, 2012.

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  1. ... continued from yesterday.

    Being able to lose the author -- and yourself -- in a book, Janet, is the best reading experience, I think.

    Hey Jen, I knew about the great character ... because I know Nancy and katiebird. :)

    And also, kitties can't be too bad if they lead you to make poundcake cupcakes (which I insist should have fresh strawberries on top instead of icing).

  2. Mmm, cupcakes.

    @ the mimes and not mentally ready for the day. Oh well, it's Monday.

  3. Needing to get to the mimes before the rain starts up again!

    Andi, the XSLT has been frustrating, but what a sense of accomplishment when I got the damn thing to work! ;-)

    Stuff is charged, car windows were rolled up, just need to get Daughter Dearest out of bed to watch Mason & I'll be on my way…

  4. One upside about Mondays is that you can usually sleepwalk through them and no one else will notice. ;)

    Sniff looks incredibly happy in that picture. It almost looks like one of those motivational posters: MEDITATION: When a tree falls in the woods, the happy dog understands, hey, there's a new climber toy."

    Andi, I will always make your treats on the savory side and serve them topped with any fruit you desire, because I adore you. :)

  5. Andi and Jen - my first trip through Kansas was totally Nancy caused. She was blogging about visiting libraries and I fell in love with the place.

    Hope that everyone has a good Monday. Where did you say those treats were????

  6. Jen, hostessing with the mostessingJune 11, 2012 at 9:41 AM

    ::appears magically with a tray full of homemade Martha Stewart recipes::

  7. Weird weekend. One of Wes' former classmates who is in foster care - was not allowed to graduate and sent to another foster care situation. Turns out he quit taking his "meds" which he needs for bipolar and manic depressive and he has Downs. So he became violent and that made things worse for him. So he calls us this weekend wanting us to call the police on his behalf. Wayne stayed with him on the phone as he was saying he had been abused and thought his finger was broken. I called his teacher (saturday) and got voicemail. So I called the pd. I said that Christian had Downs and had been off meds and that he's probably pissed off that he got kicked out of ctp and wasn't able to graduate with the class. (It would send Wes into a storm if that happened to him - meds or no meds, history of violence or not). I said I wanted a welfare check and he was to HELP him not HURT him. We got a fairly good cop. He said that Christian was in a Crisi Care Interim home. He had to be restrained the day before as he was being very violent. Me and another mom will be calling his casemanager. He has no parents/family. I can't beleive he was just kicked out like that - school and his long time foster care. The kid has tired to kill himself when he graduated high school due to fears of the unknown. So this is cyclic behavior. I just can't believe there's not something out there for our kids like this. Teacher called us back and said calling cops was good but that he couldn't talk about it and to distance ourselves. What? No way. The other mom had even offered for Christian to stay with her and her family up to graduation and till they found a new foster care for aged out adults. He just turned 21...

    Also, Wes and his other friend Conall are very upset about this happening.

    I spent yesterday talking with Conall's Mom and she's gave me lots of help for Wes regarding SSI and Washington Co disability servies. May have to sue County services and she gave me the County Commissioners name and already emailed him for us and he's already replied. She's a figher like me and even though our boys are best friends, they are totally different disabilities but same fights. Neither of uf will "distance ourselves" from Christian or any of Wes' and Conall's friends in need. He needed help not being restrained or his whole life flip flopped like that.

    Sorry, had to let you guys know. This is HUGE in our lives. I watched Wayne stay on the line with Christian for almost 2 hours during the ordeal while I used my cell and Wes' cell to call the PD and former teacher.

    This country can do better... I can't just let this kid fall through the cracks.

  8. Janet, I'm so sorry to hear about your son's friend's troubles. I'm not sure how disabled he is, exactly, but if it would benefit him to have someone monitoring his care and treatment in a more full-time and official capacity you may want to research your local guardianship programs/businesses. If he is unable to care for himself adequately and independently, the court can appoint someone to look out for him, and the person has to report back to the court as often as the judge demands. This person is often next of kin but they don't have to be, and in SoFla there was a sort-of a cottage industry of guardianship going on because the needs of our seniors were going unmet by their kin.

    I believe in Oregon that the court can designate a strict financial guardianship in which someone would look out solely for the young man's financial concerns with the court's oversight, and/or a guardianship of the person, which could include healthcare/meds and residential decision-making and again would have the court's oversight. Sometimes folks who have guardianship experience already will have some really good downlow info about skating the ice patches in the system and how to eke out funding even where it seems like there is none.

    I hope everything gets better as soon as possible.

  9. Thanks Jen. This young man has no family. His parents came here, had him and when it was determined he was disabled they left him here and the mother flew back to the Phillipines. A "dump and run". It happens all the time. American parents, too. Many in fost care are disabled. He has some sort of case manager that me and Lisa will be calling today. He is supposed to be calling them too today. Obvioulsy you can't have a violent kid in with others - most of whom are severely disabeld, medicaly fragile or just unable to cope with such matters - but this seemed cyclic, anticipated behavior - which was only made worse by the clamp down procedure of tossing him out of school and then out of foster care. Turns out the foster care parents are christian and don't abide by any drinking. He "broke the rules" and he's "out". Lisa tried calling them. Lisa is Conall's mom - the Timbers fan - make a wish. We've taken Christian to many games, movies, dances... he mostly stays at her home. She's made sure he has all the money, like SSI and such but it seems like this is cyclic behavior due to fear of the unknown and upcoming changes and him going off his meds. Something you'd think people who were caring for him would have anticipated...

    Basically, he's plugged into all the services and $$ but everyone else seems to be tuned out.

    We won't let him fall through the cracks, Jen. Most of the homelessness in this country is because people distance themselves. ((((Jen))))))

  10. Janet, I am glad you are there for this young man.

    Maybe you can just tell yourself it's Thursday -- a very, very long Thursday, Maria -- kind of like Larry convinced that winter was just a long November.

    I am all for you having that sense of accomplishment, Larry. I'm just glad that I don't have to experience it anymore. :)

    He was very happy, Jen. That was the first walk we took after Jim and I got back from vacation. And I am very happy thinking of the treats you might make for me. :D

    Dina, those were great blogs on her trip through Kansas; even the tumbleweeds were charming.

  11. A "dump and run". It happens all the time. American parents, too.

    I am all too well aware of this, remember, my own family threw me into the street like garbage when they found out I was queer, so I was a homeless kid for a while. I would not be alive today but for the kindness of "strangers". Please keep us posted on how he's doing as things move forward, and be sure to let me know if there's anything I can do to help him get into a better, or at least more stable, situation overall.