Saturday, March 20, 2010

Leaving Indianapolis

Taken March 17, 2010.

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  1. Now I don't have to be jealous of you Southerners with leaves -- I can be jealous much close to home. There is some action with a few maples and the redbuds though so my jealous be dimming before too long.

  2. Two of our yard trees are starting to show signs of life again, which is almost as encouraging to me as watching the US queer equality movement start to show some spine again. Evidence of that spine has been on the lam for considerably longer than the leaves, but we did have a lot of grieving to do, plus we've been re-organizing. And now of course there's some angst about tactics and irritating the pearl-clutchers (seriously, are they ever NOT irritated?), but anyone who's ever read more than two books about the history of equality movements knows that civil disobedience has virtually always played an important role in them.

    And now it occurs to me that maybe no one else even knows wtf I'm talking about! Newsweek did a piece or two about it online but I don't know if any other mainstream news orgs even picked up. I don't watch tv news because at this point even CNN -- The Most Trusted Name In News, lollerskates -- spends an alarming amount of airtime obsessing over Sandra Bullock's husband's errant member and how its raucous adventures might compare and/or contrast to the errant member of one Tiger Woods. I'd link to the Newsweek piece but they got the facts of the case wrong.

    ANYWAYS, what happened was that a couple of gay soldiers (one was Dan Choi, who's probably a familiar name to some of the folks here) chained themselves to the White House fence Thursday in protest of DADT (yes, they intended to get arrested), and another small group of activists held a sit-in at Pelosi's office to try to pressure the Speaker to whip votes for ENDA (non-discrimination in employment) and get it on the floor by the end of the month (yes, they were also aware that this could lead to an arrest). A new grassroots organization, GetEqual, was responsible for organizing the sit-in, and word is they're planning more peaceful protests. Oh how I wish my health would let me join them.

  3. Oh poo, I hope that's not too much of a wall of text for folks. If it's TL;DR, I'm sorry.

  4. It's not a tl;dir -- it's a wibtjdba*. I had already gotten an email alert on Dan Choi's situation but hadn't heard about the ENDA action. I'm glad to see that there is an organization that is going to consistently push to make LGBTQ issues more visible.

    * why it's bad that Jen doesn't blog anymore

  5. * why it's bad that Jen doesn't blog anymore

    and by bad I don't mean "bad" of you but "bad" for me because I miss reading your thoughts and find my own being pushed out of their comfort zone.

  6. Well thanks, I think. :) It kinda surprises me that you would say anything about my blog content ever challenged your comfort zone, though. Now I'm curious what did that, heh.

  7. It's so sad that the mainstream news finds men's extramarital transgressions more newsworthy than the Dan Choi issue (I didn't see a thing about it, but I admittedly don't pay any attention to the news except what I stumble over). Thanks for the update, Jen. And yes, I miss your thoughts too!

    Yay for budding trees - things around here are starting to bud out too, and it's exciting (yes, things are green here all year, but all of the stuff that died in the frost is starting to come back).

    Basketball games are very exciting. And I went to a fun new place for music last night. Trying to find different ways to fill my time here.

    Memorial for my friend Jan on the beach this evening. Weather is finally returning to normal, so it should be a warm, gorgeous sunset for her.

    Happy Saturday, everyone - enjoy whatever you do!

  8. Jen, it's that it's just too easy to not think about things that don't necessarily affect me directly and it's important to me to not let that happen. So it really helps to read blogs that challenge me.

    Beth, I hope the memorial brings you some peace and especially the pleasure of wonderful memories.

  9. Andi, I misunderstood what you meant by "challenge", thanks for clarifying.

    Beth, also wishing you a peaceful and healing memorial service, the ocean is a wonderful place for that.

  10. Morning, gang! Budding cherry trees all over here, definitely spring.

    Jen, I've been watching/reading about what happened here and like you am happy that the spine is back. Lt. Choi rocks beyond the telling of it.

    Beth: {{{{hugs}}}} I'm sure the memorial service will be lovely. Can't beat sunset on the beach. I think the vikings had it right--sending off the fallen warrior in a flaming ship on the sea.

    Andi, a couple of the blogs I follow that have a lot of great coverage of LGBT issues is and Primarily about pop culture, but definitely covering all LGBT issues. One of the major contributing editors is a buddy of mine--Brent Hartinger. His partner, Michael Jensen is the Sr. editor of AfterElton. Brent is the author of several wonderful YA novels.

    Wishing everyone a great weekend! I'm planning to take it easy today, did a LOT of packing yesterday.

  11. Thanks - it should be a nice event. Hopefully it'll be positive and loving - I plan to avoid those folks who insist on making it about them and their own grief, instead of about Jan. People never cease to amaze me.

  12. Yes, Jen, the pearl-clutchers will be "annoyed" at the merest glimpse of someone who doesn't act or think the way they do. Actually, this is their form of recreation, since they don't believe in enjoying themselves otherwise: they make a big show of taking offense, while inwardly relieved that they have someone they can feel "superior" to.

    Seconding Andi on missing your blog, for the same reasons, although the phrase that came to mind for me was "expanding my horizons."

    Supposed to be a *really* nice day on Planet Georgia. The butterfly bushes already have leaves, and various trees are budding out. Soon it will be April, which means Revenge of the Pines and sheer hell for those poor souls with allergies. Mrs. Fetched wants to plant stuff this afternoon, so I'm going to spend the morning wailing on firewood.

    Beth, I hope the memorial service goes well.

    OK, time to get outside… why are y'all sitting at the computer on a day like this?

  13. Farf, thank you for saying such kind things and I hope you enjoy a lovely day outside.

    Maria, I don't know where you were in the 80s, but I used to run around South Florida with some of the ACT-UP types of protesters. We were all so loosely organized back then. I never really "belonged" to any particular group, we used to run around with whomever was fighting back at the time. My best friend Kevin used to wear this t-shirt that said "I BASH BACK".

    A lot of my friends from that time were among the first wave of the HIV+, and they are all dead now. For almost 10 years it was just a long string of funerals for people under 40, under 30, some of them barely in their 20s, one death watch after another, while their "families" had thrown them away and we did our best to care for them.

    It is deeply weird to get older like this, my cohort was so hollowed out, like 80% of my friends were drafted into the culture war and then never got to come home again. The grief inside the GLBTQ community, the way the AIDS crisis was first ignored by the government and then actually encouraged by those hideous "pro-family" groups, was more profound, I think, than a lot of people outside the community appreciated.

    I'm rambling. This newish direction of the movement is bringing up a lot of old, very powerful emotions for me. Here's a link to a (NSFW, I curse like a sailor in my own space) post I wrote a few years ago about part of how I came out/was outed which explains a little more background about why the movement has so much emotional intensity for me, if anyone is curious.

  14. Well, sleep in a bit and slowly make my way to the computer and WHAM--It's been a busy morning here.

    Andi, so glad you've got signs of Spring. Oh yeah, that starts today as it slides down into the thirties and is raining. Sigh.
    Farf and Beth glad you both got some good weather.

    Beth, Major cyberhugs and hopes for a healing service and great tribute to your friend.

    Maria--careful with the back as the packing gets into overdrive.

    Jen, I've never been much of an activist. Not that I don't feel enraged or saddened by mistreatment and people that must make others feel bad to make themselves feel better. I try to be the kind one that treats people like---well people. Not all wrapped in labels and fear and anger. Stupidity is an equal opportunity that crosses all race, sex, political party lines and any other lines you can think of. Do fight that stupidity any time I can.
    Jen, I hope you work on stories/writing that allows us the reader opportunities to experience your humor, irritation, frustration, experience in a fiction, fun, snarky kinda way.
    I hope this burst of blog writing means that you are feeling pretty good these days.

    Senational Saturday to All.

  15. Thanks for the link, Jen. Since I didn't "meet" you until a couple of years ago, I didn't know that part of your story. Amazing the things we can survive - including our families. Thanks for the reminder that we can decide who we are, and how to make the most of that reality, instead of trying to make that square peg fit into that round hole.

  16. Maria, cherry blossoms sound lovely and thanks for the blog suggestions. A couple of blogs I like are Box Turtle and Questioning Transphobia.

    Farf, I'm just back from outside and am pleased to report that, although there is still no leaf action, the "wild" daffodils have flowered. So yay for color in the woods.

    Jen, that link is the perfect illustration of what I was talking about.

    Happy sleeping in, Lisa. It's the last morning of good weather for awhile for us, Lisa -- rain and 50s till Tuesday.

  17. Beth, I'm glad you were able to get something out of it. I don't usually get into this backstory with people I don't know very well (blogging about it was sort-of an armchair activist thing to do) because too many people make too many really bad assumptions about everything from the queer elements to the child abuse elements, and then I can never persuade them to let go of those bad assumptions. Easier to discuss the whole thing if people get to know me a little first, then they have that reaction, "Wow, I had no idea..." and that usually helps.

    Lisa, fwiw, while I will snark about stupidity to vent, what really bothers me is that I genuinely believe that most people are smart enough to know better. I've spent a fair amount of time around kids and my experience tells me that most Kindergarteners are smart enough to know better. And yet so many full grown adults choose to be deadly cruel anyway, and they teach their kids to be the same. This is not accidental, this is intentional, and most of them are using one religion or another as some kind of Get Out Of Responsibility Free card, so imo it's actually a very complex social problem that involves a lot of intersecting issues, each with its own complicated history.

    My health remains dodgy so most of my limited writing time/energy is going into a novel that will indeed deal with a lot of these things, although its main themes are death and love. Thank you for the encouragement, though, and I hope you're able to enjoy some R&R&W(riting) this weekend before you have to go back to the squirrel mimes. ;p

    Andi, gotcha now. :)

  18. Drive by hi - had company, now exhausted.